Thursday, April 21, 2016

How To Tell A Girl You Like Her Without Being Needy

I’d like to talk to you about something that seems to be a major issue for many men: how to tell a girl that you like her without seeming weird or needy. Don’t you wish there was an easy way to do that?
Most of all, a safe way?
After all, you can’t just tell her flat-out, right?
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That’d be pretty awkward. And it’s not like you never tried: you’ve confessed to girls in the past how much you felt for them, and it made them run away faster than you could say “what the…?”.
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I’ll give you a little revelation, and it may come as quite a surprise to you because it works without any magic phrases, tricks or safety nets. Before I do, though, let me take you back into my past – and possibly yours, too…
Roots of anxiety: freaking girls out when you were young
In my early youth, I went through a phase when I was very open and curious about anybody.
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There was a girl that I wanted to get to know better. So being innocent and knowing nothing about seduction, I followed her on the way home to talk to her. In hindsight, it was probably the most needy thing I could have done! As you can imagine, she wasn’t really receptive! See, my curiosity was surely fine, but by following her around, I freaked her out so much that the next time I tried the same thing, she actually physically fled from me!
Even when you’re young, you don’t have to be a genius to realize that having a girl run away from you probably isn’t the best thing in the world!
Reactions like that from girls had made me insecure when I was young. I started thinking there was something wrong with being curious, and I became quite anxious about talking to strangers. You may relate to that. Experiences like this and the resulting anxiety have kept me from being open with girls for many years.
Then I realized: there’s nothing wrong with flat-out telling a girl that you like her!
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How to tell a girl you like her: just do it!
Now you hear them yell: “but that’s being clingy and needy! You’re handing her your balls on a silver platter!” Well I’ll tell you what: if you make it clingy and needy, then it is. However, you have control over how you relay your message to another person: between us, women really like to feel appreciated and loved. But they want to feel the love is a privilege they earned with their personality, and that they’re getting it from somebody who’s in a strong enough position to give. You enjoy a girl’s company?
Be open about it – but do it in the right way.
That’s the key here.
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Telling The Right Way
A-ha! We’re back where we started. So there’s more to it after all. Okay, first of all, you want to do it when it feels right and natural. That means DON’T do it within the first few minutes after meeting her. Do it at the end of a date! “Hey, I think you’re an attractive woman and I like your style.” Suggest another meeting (might be good to have some cool event planned beforehand: “why don’t you join me on Friday, I’m going to this party?”).
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Remember this: your purpose is to add great people to your life. You’re not saying “I like you so very much and all I want is for you to pleeease stay with me”, you’re saying “I like you because you do/are this, and I’d like to keep you in my life.” First of all, your mindset has to shift from “wanting to become part of somebody else’s life” to “inviting the person to be part of yours”. You’re offering that woman the chance to be part of your (awesome) life because she has earned it by doing/being whatever makes her great.
In doing so, you’re not only giving the person major validation, you’re also leaving it up to them to accept!
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However, if you’d like to get the girl to tell you that she really likes you first, then I strongly recommend you read Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo. He tells you exactly how to make that happen.
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And that leads me to your second shift: your outlook has to change from “if she doesn’t accept, my life will fall apart and I will cry myself to sleep” to “I’d like to have her in my life, but if she doesn’t accept the invitation, it’s not a problem.” You’re not losing anything, are you?
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And that’s it for today. One last interesting point is that as a kid, you probably instinctively knew how to tell a girl you like her: isn’t it funny that we lose some of our natural, innate social skills when we grow up? Social convention, media, or troubled teenagers dealing with their blossoming sexuality sprout all these ideas in our head that cover up something we used to pull off without any effort. Well, here’s your tip: regain it. Be open and genuine.



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Joseph Montes